Dear Gen X,
You live life only once. So live it to the fullest. Most of us(talking about singles, people who are committed etc., relax :D) after the age of 27-28 are kind of settled in life - in terms of education and job and that is when the pressure of getting married starts building up, with parents and relatives, of course, playing a prominent role. Most of the guys and girls belonging to this generation are smarter. By the time they reach the marriageable age, they've already have been into a couple of relationships (completely screwed, in other words) and hence they know what kind of partner would be good for them and marry the one they like (the most!). This is called love marriage in present day context. Good, if it works for you.
Then there is a second category of Gen x - the boys or gals who are intelligent, doing well professionally, have sound moral values, don't break hearts or play with someone's emotions and have clean habits (Yes, such people still exist!). They obey their parents and let them decide about their future which is commendable. The parents would also never want anything to go wrong with their children's lives. However, times have changed, values have changed and more importantly people have changed. Life is not that simple and not always fair. The worst of things can happen even when you are ideally doing things the right way but deep inside you keep regretting your decisions. All I would advise is step out of your parent’s and society's shadow - be brave, take your own decisions be it life partner, job or business. Have faith in yourself; follow what your heart, sixth sense and your conscience say. You are mature enough*. I repeat- Take your own decisions. Fight (politely) for the person (there must be something good in her/him for sure!) you love. Things can still go wrong later but at least you'll be responsible for making or breaking your life and not let somebody else control your life based on their ideologies or experiences. A few years down the line, parents would be happy if you are happy. Remember - Everyday is another opportunity. Love your parents, take good care of them, seek their blessings, be socially responsible but please don't let anyone else decide what is right or wrong for you.
Always keep in mind that in the end, the choice you make, makes you.
It's not the end of the world. Get up and get going!
Then there is a second category of Gen x - the boys or gals who are intelligent, doing well professionally, have sound moral values, don't break hearts or play with someone's emotions and have clean habits (Yes, such people still exist!). They obey their parents and let them decide about their future which is commendable. The parents would also never want anything to go wrong with their children's lives. However, times have changed, values have changed and more importantly people have changed. Life is not that simple and not always fair. The worst of things can happen even when you are ideally doing things the right way but deep inside you keep regretting your decisions. All I would advise is step out of your parent’s and society's shadow - be brave, take your own decisions be it life partner, job or business. Have faith in yourself; follow what your heart, sixth sense and your conscience say. You are mature enough*. I repeat- Take your own decisions. Fight (politely) for the person (there must be something good in her/him for sure!) you love. Things can still go wrong later but at least you'll be responsible for making or breaking your life and not let somebody else control your life based on their ideologies or experiences. A few years down the line, parents would be happy if you are happy. Remember - Everyday is another opportunity. Love your parents, take good care of them, seek their blessings, be socially responsible but please don't let anyone else decide what is right or wrong for you.
Always keep in mind that in the end, the choice you make, makes you.
It's not the end of the world. Get up and get going!
*Conditions apply.
Awesome .. Agree With You On Some Point.. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Lalit. Yeah I understand, the advice given is not applicable to all and varies from person to person. In general, everyone should follow what the parents and family approve of. But this post was written keeping in mind people who despite being successful, are going haywire because their family takes every single decision for them. More with girls.. and boys too :)
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